3 ways to help support your child’s mental health
Mental wellness for your children begins at home.
We will have many different influences throughout our lifetime, but the influence of a child’s home has the most impact.
As a Child and Family Therapist, Parent Coach and someone who manages mental health struggles on a daily basis, there are three major tips I would like to share with you to minimize the risk of your child struggling with mental health issues.
Mindfulness is the Number 1 thing that I teach to every single parent that I work with. Mindful parenting is understanding that every action has a reaction and thinking beyond today.
Every time that you speak to, discipline and praise your child, it will impact how he or she views himself or herself in the future. You have to think: what will my response to this mean for my child’s future?
Attachment and connection are vital to the success of a child. I won’t go through all of the attachment styles but I will say that it is a continual process throughout your child’s life.
It does not end after you stopped doing skin-to-skin after six months. You can increase connection with your child through daily check-ins/check-outs, allowing them space to talk about whatever they want and through play.
Also, support them in the things they like to do and ask them about those things. For example, stop complaining about how much they play video games and play with them or talk to them about the game, but choose wisely when you decide to do this.
Take Care of Yourself
You cannot pour from an empty cup nor can you give 100 percent to your child when you are on 10 percent.
I know mom guilt tells you that no one else can take care of your child as well as you can, and you’re right. However, when mom guilt tells you that you are terrible for letting your child spend the night away from home or for even taking a few hours away, you are wrong! You have to take care of you so that your child is getting the best version of you when they need you.
Khia Glover is a Licensed Social Worker, Child and Family Therapist and Parent Coach. Khia uses her knowledge and mental health experiences to teach Black moms tools to raise mentally healthy children. She has been working with children and families in various ways for more than 10 years and is passionate about children’s mental health. Khia helps mom’s through one-on-one and group coaching. Connect with her here: www.notesbykhia.com, @notesbykhia or on Facebook at https://bit.ly/2PfSOQj.