How two adult sisters with autism found hope through art
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Although both of her daughters are adults, some days still remain a struggle for Thomasina Carver. 

The Durham mother recently retired from her job of 33 years at a psychiatric ward, and only then did she see how the COVID-19 pandemic affected her children Brianna Thompson, 27, and Shelby Thompson, 29. 

The sisters were both diagnosed with autism at 4-years-old, respectively. When Carver stopped working full-time earlier this year, she noticed the isolation had taken its toll on them.

Prior to quarantine, Shelby was seeking suitable employment, while Brianna was close to finishing at her community college.  

Sisters Brianna, right, and Shelby Thompson. Photo: Thomasina Carver

When older sister Shelby was initially diagnosed, Carver didn’t know much about autism outside of her neighbor from her own teenage years. 

“All I knew about autism was non-verbal people could not function,” she admitted. “It frightened me, and so I started doing a lot of research on it, a lot of reading.” 

Carver quickly discovered groups that assisted special needs parents with finding schools and additional resources. More importantly, she realized Shelby could thrive despite her diagnosis. 

I always say, just because you carry the diagnosis, that doesn’t stop your life.

But in focusing her attention on the oldest of her two daughters, something may have slipped by. It wasn’t until an accident that left Brianna, who was 3 at the time, in the emergency room did she recognize that her daughter’s speech wasn’t developing at an expected pace. She was later diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. 

A 2017 study estimated that about four boys have autism for every girl, and some of the earlier data points to a skewed sex ratio. Since there were fewer girls diagnosed at the time, Brianna and Shelby became part of a study when they were children. 

Brianna Thompson. Photo: Thomasina Carver
Brianna Thompson, above, and Shelby Thompson. Photos: Thomasina Carver

There were both challenges and joys of raising two girls with autism. Shelby struggled with behavior, especially at a young age. Several times a week, Carver would have to stop work to either take a call from or drive to Shelby’s school. She said once, a teacher’s assistant even broke Shelby’s arm trying to restrain her. 

Shelby always says to me, ‘I wish I wasn’t so smart. I’d rather be normal like everyone else, than be different and be so smart.’ I always try to make her see you still have so much to give to the world, both of them.

Brianna was more emotional, according to her mother. She often dealt with depression. She continues to battle bouts of sadness as an adult, but loves her independence. When she started at her first community college, she took the bus alone after a summer of practice with Carver.   

While the girls had a social worker and assistance from her current husband, Carver bore much of the weight. 

“I did a lot of praying, a lot of sneaking out, going to church early in the morning,” she said. “I’d go to the 6:30 service, so that I could be back before they’d wake up when they were teenagers.”

Carver’s mother was local, but she couldn’t handle the girls’ behavioral outbreaks. She instead offered assistance by doing housework or other light tasks. 

“Basically it was me doing this. Me and God, honestly.” 

“A lot of praying, a lot of up all night sometimes with behaviors, a lot of sitting at the door of the bedroom when we had behaviors, a lot of sleeping in the living room just watching down the hallway to make sure they didn’t get in fights with each other,” Carver paused, almost mystified by the recollection. “You just wouldn’t believe, I tell you.” 

Brianna and Shelby are both currently on medication and have seen the same physiatrist for years. Carver still hosts birthday parties and other events for her daughters so that they can have healthy social experiences.

But she notices something special when they engage in art. 

For Brianna, it’s drawing. For Shelby, it’s acting byway of puppets or her furry suits. 

The girls’ art allows them to express their creativity, and their mother has taken notice of the escapism it provides. 

Autism and art

When Shelby was in high school, she was in a visual arts program. She learned even more than she already knew about computers and how to create art on them. She started drawing, providing inspiration for her younger sister to see. 

Art by Shelby

It didn’t take long for Brianna to also pick up drawing. 

While the sisters have shared hobbies, such as gaming, and individual attachments, there’s something about artistic expression that soothes them. 

A local barber shop recently displayed some of their works for purchase, and Carver could feel how excited they were by the mere preparation. 

She noticed more singing, humming and happiness. 

In a private Facebook group, Carver posted an amazing family portrait Brianna created as a way to attract even more exposure to anyone willing to hire special needs adults. 

Brianna illustrated this family portrait.

“That was the reason I posted that photo on Facebook. I knew they needed something to do,” Carver said. “These girls are sitting at home, and I just feel like they’re wasting so much talent. They’ve been here a solid year, and I was still at work up until now.”

The family photo shows Shelby dressed in a fur suit, which is a dream of hers. Carver has only been able to buy a head for her but hopes one day she can help obtain an entire costume for Shelby. 

The reason Shelby is seeking employment is to pay for one of the suits for mascoting. 

“I decided that I have to try and get these girls out there,” Carver said. “I have to let the world know who they are and what their capabilities are.”

6 thoughts on “How two adult sisters with autism found hope through art

  1. What an amazing article. I have known Thomasina for years and have witnessed what an amazing mother she is. Through all the challenges that she has faced she still managed to be available and effective in helping others. Her daughters are truly blessed to have not only a caring mother but one who is hands on in all aspects of their lives. Both girls have been gifted with a mother who was able to navigate the system and bring out their very best!!

  2. I love your beautiful girls and family! Thank you for sharing this with me! Never forget, you are an awesome mom & person!
    LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!

  3. Amazing family! The girls are so talented and Thomasina is an wonderful, caring mother! Proud to be their friend! Love them!

  4. This is such a powerful and inspirational article! Thomasina is such a loving and thoughtful woman, and Shelby and Breonna are so blessed to have Thomasina as a mother. I’ve known Thomasina for many years, and it has been such a blessing to see her foster the gifts of her lovely daughters!

  5. All I can say is Thomasina is an amazing mom, I love hearing her funny stories about her daughter’s personalities. I have met them both and they are beautiful inside out, like their mother. I love their artwork.

  6. Love it. My son loves to draw on anything he can get name on and come a long way from not saying more than two words to asking questions and thinking that he can help his granddaddy built things. He was diagnosed with austim at four years old and once I stop blaming me I became a better parent for him.

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